Love Vs Arranged Marriages - Difference in behavioral Patterns
Love Marriage or an Arranged one? Many ask this question either to the one's who are planning to get married or it can be a self query. In India, nearly 92% of the population go with Arranged Marriages or Love cum Arranged marriages. On the other hand only 8% go for Love marriages.
Whether its a love or an arranged marriage, one should believe that "Marriages are made in Heaven". The key words for any happy marital life are Love, Respect, Understanding, Trust, Acquaintance etc. The divorce rate got declined to 1.1% in India. This is all because of the average Indian's mental strength to accept what comes in their way with a complete positive attitude. So one must come out of the stereotype feeling that arranged marriages live long and love marriages breakup early. It all depends on the couple's perceptions, thinking ability and understanding between the families for a long lasting marital life.
When you enter a wedding venue, you can sometimes make out whether the wedding is an arranged one or a love marriage. Lets get into some fun aspects of the same.
Arranged Marriage
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Love Marriage
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Couple's Intimacy
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In Arranged marriages, families get more closer than the mates. From the shy feelings and restricted movements of the bride and groom, one can make out a to be an arranged marriage.
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Here in Love marriages, the couples feel free to communicate with each other. Smiles flying all the time, perfect chemistry is carried on, all along the wedding. |
Families Rapport
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As the wedding is fixed by the family members of the bride and the groom, they get more acquainted with each other. There will be a number of situations for the families to come together before the wedding like Haldi Rasam, Mehndi, Sangeet etc. These get together s result in more closeness for the families on the day of wedding.
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The families of the bride and the groom show some reservedness if they completely don't approve of the wedding. So not much rapport is displayed between them on the dais of the wedding. The entire event is mostly handled by the couple themselves. |
Guests Count
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| The venues generally get packed up with guests if it's an arranged marriage. The ratio of families dominate the ratio of friends and colleagues. |
In love marriages we find the number of friends or colleagues are high compared to the numbers of families attended or they may be equal in ratio. Orthodox families will most probably miss out these marriages. What so ever the reason, the guest count is generally low at love marriages.
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Receiving Guests
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| The guests are received with utmost care, especially the ones from groom's side. The Groom's family also receive the Bride's guests warmly. |
The Bride's family do not feel much obligation to receive guests from the groom side due to the slight resistance. Guests are mostly friends and colleagues who are not received heartily by the families. On the other hand, the couple try their best to win the hearts of the guests by wishing them warmly.
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Social Status
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In arranged marriages almost typically an equal financial status match is fixed to prevent further hitches. A rich family opts for either same status or above. There will be a similar trend with the middle class families. |
In love marriages both the families may or may not be of same financial status. If there is a difference, then the guests can easily make out on the day of the wedding looking at the Costumes, Jewellery and very rarely, dignity. |
Friends of the Couple
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Friends of the Bride and Groom, are not usually acquainted with each other. It takes time for them to start interacting with each other during the wedding rituals.
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Friends of the Bride and Groom show intimacy and move close together. |
Confusion Vs Confidence
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The couple when observed on the wedding Dias, a state of confusion reflects on their faces.
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These love birds look very confident on their Big Day. Love is in the air and all over the place |
Pride Vs Embarrassment
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The families of either the bride or the groom when noticed, have a proud feeling on their faces and behavior. They are gratified about their children for accepting the proposal settled by the elders. Its a Big day for the parents as well.
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The close family members of the couple have an embarrassment filled all along their behavior if the marriage is not completely approved by both the families. On the other hand there are parents these days who are approve whole heartedly. |
Communication of Arrangements
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| The arrangements in an arranged marriage are usually not that transparent and organized. There will be multiple videographers, photographers etc. causing more expenditure both sides. |
With the continuous communication between the couple, things will be more organized and communicated much before hand. There will be more transparency for both sides on the arrangements that are being made. |
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| Live Marriage Streaming is a trend these days with Couples whose marriage has been arranged in their home country in their absence. |
Live Marriage Streaming is definitely organized since the couples most definitely have common friends in the home country or abroad.
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All the above mentioned points may not always be true and these have been drawn through some public opinions and observations. In this modern culture and society, people are trying to accept love marriages in the same way as arranged ones. Hope you enjoyed the differences and probably had these thoughts crossed your mind sometime or the other when you were on a wedding dais.
